I took a workshop on nonviolent communication once and as I was standing at the snack table a woman commented on how she couldn’t eat a specific food because she was allergic. A second woman asked her if she wanted to get rid of the allergy and offered to do it. The first woman didn’t say yes or no.
I don’t have any allergies, but I was intrigued why the woman wouldn’t jump at the chance to get rid of an allergy. I imagined that she didn’t trust the other woman and/or didn’t believe that she could just get rid of an allergy standing there in the middle of a class. I wondered about how the second woman could get rid of allergies, but I didn’t ask. Later, when I began to study ThetaHealing, I suspected the woman might have been a ThetaHealer, because “pulling” allergies is easy to do and works most of the time.
Today I am thinking about how we say “no” to offers and why.
I am reminded of another story. I heard this at a big speaker event for a 12 step fellowships. A woman talked about how she used to pray to God for the addict boyfriend she wanted to keep. Over and over she would ask for that relationship to work. Now, she realizes that she was begging God to give her a penny when God had a $100 in his hand he was trying to offer her. Her conclusion: Often we only ask for a penny when we could have a $100.
When I first found out about enlightenment I was thrilled. Someone had figured out how to end suffering, sickness, aging and death. And it wasn’t just some unknown person, it was the Buddha. Even I had heard of him. And so it seemed credible to me. As soon as I heard about it I was ready. I signed up for it. No hesitation.
Yet, other people are not instantly thrilled. I am flabbergasted. Why wouldn’t someone embrace this path immediately? Well, perhaps, like that woman with the allergy, they simply don’t trust the teachings and/or they doubt it is even possible. Or maybe they are going after something they think will bring them more satisfaction (the penny) instead of accepting what is unimaginable (the $100).
I know that twenty years ago, I couldn’t even imagine the level of contentment, competence, and peace I feel today. Twenty years ago I was not grounded and centered. Even the change in the past three years has been mind-boggling. And still I am completely different from what “I” will be when enlightened. Indeed, I cannot imagine and do not even care to speculate what that will be like. I’ve talked about this before in the post on What’s Left After the Unveiling. I am glad that I’ve chosen over and over again to not settle for the penny and to be open to saying yes to unlimited possibilities.