Fire Element

Summer is upon us. In the five element system, summer is ruled by fire element.  This is an extremely expansive season.  The extra fire from the sun fuels plant growth and expansion.  Lots of yang energy, which means, heat, fruition, passion, expansion, and glory.  The fire element is all about an external show of power, form and structure.

Mandala for the Fire Element

Mandala for the Fire Element

Summer in Phoenix is a good example of what excess fire/yang energy can do.  In Phoenix, the excess fire scorches the earth and instead of expansion we experience a withering of resources and energy.  Usually the water element is activated to balance and subdue fire.  We experience this as the summer monsoons.  The rain pours down to temper the effects of the summer heat. Good to prevent the fire element from turning everything to dust!

Similarly, too much fire in the body is experienced as inflammation and eruptions.  If balance is not restored, the internal organs can fall apart from the scorching action of the fire element.  The treatment?  Much like the desert monsoons, one can find relief with cooling substances such as anti-oxidant rich juices and herbs like burdock and dandelion root.  In contrast, conditions where fire is lacking, including indigestion, are benefited by things that create fire, such as the spices like cloves, cardamon, and ginger.

Sometimes it is not so clear how to treat digestive disturbances.  For instance, lack of “fire” in the stomach can result in intestinal ulcers (a fire condition) or other inflammatory conditions of the gut (cramping, gas and bloating).  From an allopathic perspective treatment for an ulcer involves suppressing fire by the use of anti-acids.  From a traditional perspective, the cause of the ulcer would need to be determined first.  Some people get ulcers from hyper-secretion of acid while others get ulcers from hypo-secretion of acid.  One situation calls for a cooling action the other requires more fuel be added to the fire.

Obsessive Thoughts

About 20 years ago I had a crush on a guy that wasn’t interested in me.  I was telling a friend and mentor about him and I mentioned that he had told me he wasn’t interested in getting involved with me.  She simply said, “Well, forget him.”

Her matter-of-fact statement really struck me.  I was thinking about him day and night and could not get him out of my mind.  I was “in love”, but didn’t want to be.  She said, “Forget him.” as if that was something I could do. There was no way in the world I could do that.  Her idea was unfathomable.

It made good sense to turn my mind away from him and occupy myself with other more fruitful prospects.  However, I couldn’t imagine what it would take to be able to do that.  I thought about the idea of being able to “forget him” and decided I would give “forgetting him” a try.

At the time there was a popular country song by Patty Loveless called “A Thousand Times A Day” playing on the radio.  The chorus went something like this:  Forgetting you is not so hard to do, I’ve done it a thousand times a day.  I purchased the song and every time I thought about that guy I played the song.

The first day I simply had it on auto repeat.  There was no other way.  Instead of thinking about him I was singing the song.  Over and over.  I was determined.

Now, that was 20 years ago.  I’m not sure when or how it happened, but somewhere along the line I did gain control over obsessive thoughts.  Now, I can simply, “forget him”.  I can turn my mind away from any line of thinking that is not productive, effortlessly.

This is on my mind today, because of my experience resolving my grief over Chispa.  While I miss her and frequently catch myself expecting her to be under my feet, I am not grieving anymore.  I miss her, like I would if she had simply moved away. Three days ago I would not have thought this possible.  Indeed, about nine years ago I gave my Jack Russel up for adoption and I cried hard every day for three months (until I had a ThetaHealing session that resolved it).  I was braced for the same experience with Chispa.

I work with others that sometimes are experiencing heavy grief and many times they are able to move quickly into peace with my facilitation.  I am grateful that I have tools to assist in resolving the subconscious contributors to protracted grief.  While my tools are useful, a big part of the process is wanting to have peace and deciding to do whatever it takes to get it.  I now realize how important it is to be able to have the skill to be able to not dwell on things that are painful.  My experience shows that even if we don’t naturally have the skill, it can be developed.

Clearing Grief

I came to peace quickly regarding Chispa’s death on Friday night.  Amongst all my musings was the question of how I could contribute to her transition.  In my study of Buddhism I learned that the state of mind at the time of death greatly influences what occurs next.  Suspecting that she was greatly terrified at the moment of her demise, I did not want that fear and confusion to define her next incarnation.

I knew that I needed to be calm and release my own fears and regrets.  Using meditative practices (I walked the nine-palace.) I was able to regain calm.  Then, moving into the Theta brain wave state, I reached out to her.  I lit a candle and played the chanting music I always used when the thunder and lightening came.  I was able to maintain my calm and I believe that was important to her journey.

Saturday morning I awoke calm, but moved back into deep sorrow.  My post on Saturday reflected this reawakening of grief.  Saturday, my nine palace walking did not bring me relief.  Finally, I sat down to just be.  I thought I might never get up and certainly could not do anything but be in sorrow all day.  I had a feeling that the emotions that I was feeling were not mine, but were arising due to the concern and sorrow of my friends.  I tried the Access Consciousness trick of “return to sender”.  It did not bring me any relief.

Then, I used a Access Consciousness Body Process (Trifold Sequencing Systems) on myself that I had used before with people stuck in trauma and or the bereavement process.  This process works to reset anything that is stuck looping.  In my case, I felt that the grief was just looping around. Within seconds of commanding the process to run, all that “stuff” was gone.  A couple minutes went by before I realized what had happened.  Then I got up, went outside and planted sunflowers and corn.